Being Stubborn Can Be A Good Thing

Blame it on growing up without much parental supervision. Blame it on being a Cancer. Blame it on many different factors. Anyone who gets to know me knows I am easily one of the most stubborn people. Though to any future employers not in a way that makes me unemployable ha.

I tend to be stubborn in a way that once I am focused on something that may seem extreme or unattainable, I put my mind to just that. It can at times not be helpful, but I believe at the same time it has pushed me. These extreme dreams if you may categorize them as so have been attained at times. Or at least I made a step towards them. I have been told by others that when they heard me talk about things I wanted to do that they didn’t think it was capable. Then my stubborn self surprised them.

I also need to see and do things for myself. That includes things that people may say won’t work the way I want. There have been times that they were right and I was wrong. I had to do it myself and fail if it may be. I know my stubbornness can bother some people. People have told me. I think when it comes to me being stubborn it has a lot to do with my need to learn and learn in my way. I need to see it firsthand.

For the most part, I am thankful for my stubbornness.

There have been some times where it’s come back to bite me in the butt. It has caused some distance in my relationships at times. More so in the past compared to now. Then again I have now spent years learning and working in a group setting. When being stubborn you tend to follow what you think is right compared to those around you. People tend to not enjoy engaging with people who always think they are right, or at least come off as so.

I have had to learn over the years how to adjust how I am stubborn. I will admit as much as my stubbornness can be beneficial it can also be a negative thing. A lot of the time when someone is described as stubborn you think that they are unteachable. They are set in their ways. Yeah, a little. I think like most things, it’s finding the medium. It’s knowing and believing that you will never always be right. There is always something new that can be learned or mastered.

Being teachable was something I had to learn. I think it was the most valuable lesson I could ever learn.