It IS Worth the Wait

The waiting to have sex until marriage has always been a difficult thing for me to process.

For the first ten years of my life, I grew up in a home that “no sex until marriage ” wasn’t a thing. When I moved to Indiana and was then around Christianity, I heard the term “no sex until marriage” for the first time.

For the longest time I was in this limbo of wanting to be a good Christian and waiting for sex until I got married, but deep down I didn’t really have a real reason to do so. I didn’t even know if I wanted to get married, so did that mean I’d never have sex if I obeyed the no sex until marriage?

Since deep down, I didn’t value marriage and waiting to have sex I was always afraid I was going to have sex and then my family would hate me for doing so.

I am not normally a very touchy person which has kept me from doing certain things. I am not one to just touch someone nonchalantly, especially when it comes to intimate and romantic touch. I just can’t kiss and cuddle and all of that stuff with just anyone.

Don’t get me wrong there have been times that I have been tempted and even done more than I should have. Yet, there were levels of intimacy that I stopped myself from doing that I didn’t realize why other than for obvious situational reasons.

I am 22, so I have officially reached the point in life where a good amount of guys are just looking for someone to have sex with without any strings attached.

I just finished a relationship with one of those guys. I knew he was touchy and deep down knew he wanted all of the couple touching without the being a couple aspect. It was the talking with him that made me figure out some things.

This week I realized I finally valued sex and the wait for it until marriage. I had the opportunity to have sex with someone different than the ‘no strings attached’ guy but I said no. I realized this week while talking to the ‘no strings attached’ guy that it wasn’t because I didn’t want to have sex with the one guy but because I truly wanted to wait until I got married and that’s why I said no. To be honest, if the opportunity happened a few years ago, I probably would have given in.

When you are loved deeply by someone and also love that person as deeply, it is a special feeling. When you both honor God and honor the wait until marriage, it’s a feeling that is so indescribably amazing.

If you both value each other, it’s a motivator that helps push you to wait until marriage. It can be hard and in ways, you are even more tempted to do things because you love that person so greatly.

I encourage you to wait for that someone. I encourage you to wait for sex no matter what level of things you have done with another person previously or are even doing currently. That person who is willing to encourage you and wait with you loves you on a level so great. It means that they are putting God first in your relationship.

God only wants what’s best for you and He loves you more than anyone humanly could.